What you think of yourself is more important than what other people think of you
As a relationship counsellor, if I could put my finger on one issue that tends to come up for most people, it is a feeling of self worth. You may identify with the feeling of not good enough and this may also be connected to being over-concerned about what others think or might expect of you.
Not only is it not possible to please everyone around you, but it is also not helpful, whereas staying in integrity (being true to) with yourself is what is important and what ultimately feels good and is more useful to you and to those around you.
Each one of us has a unique way of looking at and experiencing life
One person’s right or wrong, or expectations are simply their own and they can only look through their life experiences, which are often very different from yours.
The cost of trying to please everyone
When we set out to please another the outcome or feeling is often disappointment in self. That feeling of “damned if I do and damned if I don’t” may overwhelm you, because it is not always possible to please everyone around you and in fact, it may be quite costly to your own well being.
We all have our own journey and on some level need to experience things for ourselves and it is through our mistakes that we learn. Making mistakes is OK and learning to forgive yourself is one of the keys to moving on in your life.
Your self-worth effects your relationships
Most people in a failing relationship either point the finger at the other partner or blame themselves for what is unfolding around them. At Peter’s Counselling I give you tools to empower yourself and learn to apply them to your relationship.
Changing the direction of a relationship does take commitment and effort and with regular counselling sessions for both parties the prognosis is often very good.
Changing how you see and value yourself can lead to a much happier outcome
I have just finished working with a couple who had realised that they had both been taking each other for granted and had separated. They applied a small change first by dating each other again. Both found this exciting and were thrilled to report that this was such a simple but effective way of rekindling their relationship.
This couple is now enjoying each others’ company again and look forward to seeing each other after their day at work.